A Rich Successful Guy: Is That What You Have To Be To Get Dates

Are you a rich successful guy, or do you think you can’t find the person you want because you don’t have enough money? Does it seem like having more success would bring you more dates?

One guy I met recently told me that he has to drive an expensive new car, even though he can’t afford it. He thinks the car will attract dates for him. I also met a young woman who thinks that guys only care about how someone looks so she spends most of her time shopping. What she is really shopping for is a guy who can afford to take care of her.

Since both of these people share the perspective that it is their presentation that matters most, if they aren’t careful, they may run into each other.

If you are not a rich guy, and if you are tempted to act like you are, you are not living the truth. What kind of a girl do you think you will attract? If you are a woman and your self worth is tied to your looks, what kind of a guy do you think you will find? You might want to stop and think about what you are doing. Ask yourself the following questions:

*What does rich mean to me?

If you are trying to get noticed for what you wear or drive or own, you will always be a beggar. Because essentially, what you are doing is begging for attention to feel worthy. You will never find the love you want by believing that you are your possessions.

*What kind of person do I want to spend my life with?

If someone is attracted to you for your possessions, or how you look, you will never feel safe with them. If they are drawn to your false presentation, you will not trust them because you know you are not being yourself. You may also attract the same kind of person.

*Am I lucky?

Luck is when preparation and hard work meet opportunity. When two people meet who have earned what they have, their chances of happiness are strong. Romantic love has a good chance of surviving if it exists between equals. Both people need to be able to take care of themselves. One of them cannot be looking for a free ride.

*Do I have a career plan?

What do you want to accomplish in your life? Where are your talents and your deep interests? What do you need to do to develop the skills that can get you what you want? Do you need to go back to school, take a course online, or find a teacher to mentor you? You may have abilities that just need to be polished and presented in new ways.

The young man and woman who wanted cars and clothes to make them look good were heading down a road to disillusionment. If they had found each other, both of them would have blamed the other for their unhappiness.

Finding the life you want and the love you long for won’t be achieved through deception. Most of us know that it isn’t the quantity of goods that we have that would make us loveable, but rather, the quality of our life that makes us attractive. So…get ready to embrace your new life. Your happier, honest, fulfilling new life. It is possible—and you deserve it.

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