Flirt Alert
How To Attract Anyone You Want

Would you like to know how to attract anyone you want? You have to learn how to flirt. A lot of people would never admit to flirting. They think it is either beneath them, or a desperate attempt to get someone's attention. Flirting has such a negative connotation; we search for new words to describe an old custom that is necessary in the world of dating. "Communicate," "be friendly," and "smile," are but a few that explain the actions to take to make a connection.

What is flirting? Letting people know you are interested in them by sending out signals. In case you have forgotten how, here is your consolidated review course:

1. SMILE

To flirt is to smile. This is the universal signal in every culture that tells people you like something about them. It's an invitation, often, that says, come closer. If both people smile at each other, a connection has begun. An attractive smile is your greatest asset, so smile at yourself in the mirror and check yourself out. Decide if you need to whiten your teeth or get cosmetic dental work. But a smile speaks volumes-from across a crowded room or face to face in a conversation.

2. EYE CONTACT

Flirting means you need to make eye contact. Some men can't help but feel drawn to a woman who holds his gaze. To enhance the power of your attractiveness, wear the exact dominant color of your eyes, and wear it near your face. If your eyes are blue and your shirt is the same color of blue, no one can turn away from you. Ditto for brown or green.

If you want to know the complete eye contact technique, this is how it works. It sounds contrived, but as studied by researchers, it seems to be consistent and effective.

* Make eye contact that lasts just a little longer than is comfortable.

* Drop your eyes when you see you have connected.

* Look back up and gaze a little longer, with the HINT of a smile.

3. CONVERSATION

Flirting requires a conversation after you have made eye contact and smiled at each other. If the person you have noticed is across the room, start moving in that direction. Try to not get sidelined on the way over to where he or she is. If you stop to talk to other people, it is very hard, if not impossible, to pick up the line of flirting that has been started. Don't be put off if he or she isn't moving towards you. Many people are shy and stand there frozen, hoping you will send more signals. When you are near enough to talk, ask a question:

*Are you from this town?

*Have you been here before?

*Where did you grow up?

These three questions should lead to more questions and answers. After a few minutes into this conversation, you will know if you want to continue. If the person is cold, distant, or rude, move away and look for other people to meet. Don't waste time with anyone who is not kind or friendly. You have nothing to prove.

4. THE ARM TOUCH

If your conversation is going well, there is nothing quite as effective in flirting as a spontaneous touch on the arm. The gesture should be totally natural, just as you would do with a friend. Try some of these suggestions on new people you meet, co-workers, and even family. The art of conversation can be used in any setting.

And if you think of flirting as a covert, manipulative operation, you've been watching too many bad movies. Reframe your thinking about it right now. Flirting is communicating to people that you might like to know them better. Getting a date is not fate. It requires- flirting.

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