Things To Never Say To A Woman

Do you know what things you should NEVER say to a woman? When some men are single and dating, they meet and fall in love with the girl of their dreams. However, just when they think things are great, the relationship vaporizes right before their eyes. Fifty percent of men say they never saw it coming. They were unaware of what they said or did to cause her to leave. What did they do wrong?

First, as a dating single, they chose a woman who was unable to verbalize her feelings when the guy did something to offend her. Second, since a guy "thinks like a man," he probably told her the "truth" about something she was unprepared to hear. It might help to know what topics you should avoid.

*Comments about her weight

Never say anything negative about her weight. This is a painful and crunchy subject for most women who have their own inner critic about how they are not "weight perfect."

*How pretty someone else is

Never say how someone else is the most beautiful woman you ever saw. If you make a comment about how gorgeous another girl is, your lady may act like everything is fine in that moment, but turn to ice several hours later when you want to hug her. There are some things women have an elephant's memory about and this is one of them.

*Comparing her to impossible standards

Never say a compliment with a qualifier. Example: "You look nice tonight. Of course, you're no Julia Roberts, but you look pretty good anyway." What you just did was hold her up to a standard that no one could meet-except Julia. All she can do is feel like a disappointment to you. And resent you.

*What you used to do with your Ex

If you are single and dating, never say things like, "I want to take you to Paris some day. My Ex and I went there and I had the greatest time of my life." Your current lady might have started to feel flattered that you wanted to take her somewhere special and romantic. However, once she absorbs the fact that your memories of Paris are with another woman, part of her will hate the whole idea of going there. If you DO wind up visiting Paris with her, it's almost guaranteed you will have some fights that seem to come from nowhere.

*I saw my old girlfriend today

She may not keep dating you if you say something like this and then let it just hang there in mid-air. She is not sure where you are heading, but it doesn't feel good. She's thinking about how you felt when you saw her, does your old flame look better than she does, and did seeing her make you wish you were still with her. This is the way a woman's mind works. If you don't want her to close the door on you forever, tell her something immediately that will be reassuring about her place in your life.

*That isn't the way my mother did it

Never say or imply that your mother did something better. If you compare your girlfriend in a bad light to your mother, she will not like either one of you. Most guys prefer the way their mother did the laundry, or made meatloaf, or decorated the Christmas tree. If your mother isn't there to do those things for you any longer, it is not appropriate to invoke her name while your lady is doing her best to please you.

If you are single and dating and you find a fabulous girl, you may want to keep her forever. If you do, you have to think about what you are saying before you say it. There are consequences to your words. Practice the habit of telling her what she means to you and all the ways she is wonderful. When you do that, you won't have to fear the fallout of...the things you should never say to a woman.

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